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My Mom does not ”Understand’ Genderfluid or Me

I have been Question my gender for almost 7 months now,

I was born as a girl and likes being a girl,

but at the same time wishing i was born as a boy instead.

I kept thinking of being Transgender but i also wanted to be a girl,

so i searched deeper hoping i would find something usefull.

finally i found this called ”Genderfluid”

i looked deeper down in it and i also read how Genderfluid persons act,

and what their like and what their don’t.

i thought it described me, and sounded like me.

so i went down to tell my mom about this.

i took me some time to tell her

but i finally said, i meant everything i said to her.

but my mom refused.

i tried to explain it to her even tho she didn’t understand,

she understood it in the end, but still refused.

she said ”Stop Question your gender, Let’s talk about this when your 18, okay?”

she said it like she just thought i was joking or something like that, but i wasn’t.

we had a long talk were she kept saying that it’s just a phase and i get over it,

and if not then let’s talk about it when your 18.

but that’s a long time to wait, and i had been stressed

because i Questioned my gender,

like i had been thinking over this for a really long time,

it ended with i ran crying up to my room,

kept thinking ”She Don’t Understand It!”

i cried for a long time and she didn’t even talk to me after that.

it really hurt me really really really much,

and she just doesn’t understand how much it hurts.

I hope you guys can help me out of this 🙁

Pige, 14 år

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Børn

I think you’re to young to know it. Maybe you should wait a little time to see.
Maybe you should think back on what there started it? Why did you even think you’re was trans? Many people (mostly girls) think there’s something wrong with them.
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I think, If you’re sure you are genderfluid, you mom will understand it just give it time. That’s also new for her. And I think your mom think you’re to young to know it.

Maja, Pige, 13 år
juli 12, 2021

hi!
i know how hard it can be for parents to accept that their child has some feeling that they simply dont understand and i know how easy it is for them to just blame it on hormones and just call it “a phase”
i would totally recommend to get another adult to speak with your mom about this as she propoply would listen to them a bit more then she listents to you.
maeby try talking with your teacher about it or a freinds parent.
maeby you could try wrighting a letter to a proffesional on here and show the respond to your mom?

i hope you figure something out <3

iben, Pige, 13 år
juli 12, 2021

You are vers valid and so are your emotions and your gender people figure out their gender sexualitet and more at diffrent Ages i am 15 now but i found out that i was a lesbian at around 12 Being genderfluid is completly valid and i hope that your Will accept you and your beautiful self